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r/AmItheAsshole
u/throwaway__am5
WIBTA for weaponizing a deal against my brother?
I (20M) have a twin brother. When we were in high school, we made a pact that we would stick together. No friends, no girlfriends. It was supposed to last through graduation, but we came to the same college so we renewed it. We are on the same sports team as well so we are almost always together, unfortunately.
We are currently in our sophomore year. I met a wonderful girl (20F, I’ll call K) at the start of the year and we are in a relationship, but we have been hiding it from my brother. I don’t want him to kill her if he finds out.
The thing is, there’s this guy on our team (19M, I’ll call him N). He is an asshole. We don’t get along, he’s nosy as hell, and he meddles in everything.
A few months ago, he went behind my back and spoke to K. He convinced her to refuse to speak to me until my brother and I got counseling to fix our problems. We started therapy together a few months ago and things went back to normal with K and I.
Here’s where I might be the asshole. Due to some unforeseen events, it was revealed that my brother and N are hooking up and have been for some time. In retrospect, it makes sense. He’s the only person my brother will listen to and has had to step in on multiple occasions to stop him from attacking people. He talks to almost no one but N, barely saying a word to me, our cousin, or the other member of our group. Just N.
The way I look at it, N is breaking our deal as much as K is. We will be back from spring break next week and I am planning to use N against my brother. I’m going to tell him he either has to break things off with him and I break things off with K, or he has to break the deal. Our cousin and team think it’s hate sex, but I don’t think that’s the case. They spend all their time together and N is one of the only people he actually speaks to.
I talked to N a few days ago and it got a little heated (he punched me in the face for a comment I made. I’ll admit I deserved it). N doesn’t think my brother would fight me to stay with him, but I think he would. I don’t want to leave K because I love her, but this is the only thing I can think of that could make him agree to end it.
However, I do think this could make me an asshole. I don’t think any answers here will change my mind, but still. I don’t have anyone I can ask this, so Reddit, would I be the asshole?